Does This Make Me Look Fat?

Isn't the answer always "no?" Peter at Catholic Dads challenges that answer. His full piece is crossposted on his blog and was in response to this post.

Is it right to tell a white lie to spare your sweetheart's feelings or is it better to be honest?

Peter says this:

...she needs my complete honesty, in the context of the whole truth about her. If she can't expect honesty, even when it is tough, then who can she expect it from? Would I rather she found out via an unfeeling stranger that I had allowed her to present herself in an unflattering way for some time because I was too afraid of hurting her feelings?

The moral question here is to determine what is most charitable. What would be best for your sweetheart? Certainly, she needs to know that you love her and that you think she is beautiful. But if something she is wearing is not particularly flattering, or worse, immodest. Is it your place to tell her (in the most loving way possible)?

Here is a question for the three women who read this. What would you want your boyfriend or husband to do?